Dating Problems! Seeking Help!?
Tuesday, November 24th, 2009I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months and in the begin it was fun. I told him 2 months in our dating situation that I just wanted to be friends just to be to get know him. But I also told him he is a potenital boyfriend. I only told him this because I didn’t want him to try to sleep with so early in our dating stage because I was a virign. Which I told him. But not its been 4 months and we’ve had the sex conversation and in the beginning I told him that I was a virign. He does’nt pessure me to have sex with him but he does’nt call, kiss me, touch or anything. The last time I have seen him was 4 of july. He keep explaining how his not trying to avoid me but he works alot and is always tired and that he is going to try to call more. He telling me that he likes me and he thinks of me often. I like him alot. But I just don’t understand. What should I do?
girl you sound like an awesome girl, if hes not willing to be with you freindship or not, and he all of a sudden goes away then hes all about having sex. you deserve better a guy who will talk to you love you be freinds with you no matter what the case. move on and tell him he lost his chance. good luck.
i had a bf that was exactly the same. dont waste your time, really, he can say he was busy, but he wasnt because if you called him and said you were read to have sex, he woulve found the time to come and see you
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He is probably having an affair of some sort. Most guys actually say he is working and it works but i have gone through it. He probably was thrown off with the virginity. i mean like he thinks you are saying you dont want like any affection. It is your job to invite him over and make a nice soothing dinner for him he will understand.
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SRRY U LOST ME!! GOOD LUCK
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sounds like a perfectly good relationship. dont give yrself unless yr ready. i cant see the problem
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hes trying not to get up in your private space since u r a virgin(basically wat he is doing is out of respect) and w8 a while cause he will eventually get a day off
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He doesnt want to do anything that will get him all hot and then not be able to finish it off by having sex. Not calling is cause talking to you is not going to get you into bed and so he doesnt call. You’ve basically shut sex out so his interest is fading. If your going to make a guy wait then don’t commit to him and let him see other people (he maybe anyway). The waiting game is so frustrating.
It’s good that he respects you and doesnt pressure you but you have to respect a mans needs and let him got get someplace else or give it to him your self.
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Crap or get off the pot!
girl you sound like an awesome girl, if hes not willing to be with you freindship or not, and he all of a sudden goes away then hes all about having sex. you deserve better a guy who will talk to you love you be freinds with you no matter what the case. move on and tell him he lost his chance. good luck.
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sounds to me like he’s wanting more.if you won’t give "it" to him , then he’ll find someone who will.he is stringing you along, keeping you on a hook so that he may eventually get the chance.get rid of him, he doesn’t respect the decision you’ve made.
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If I were you…I’d talk to him. Tell him how you feel, that no matter what’s going on, that you feel he’s avoiding you. Tell him about all those things he used to do, that he’s not doing anymore. And clear up the relationship, work out your standards for eachother, and figure out where you are. And from the start, you shouldn’t have even been worried about having sex. Even two months into it, you don’t know someone very well, that’s why you continue to getting to know them, go out on dates and have a good time. When sex gets brought up naturally, that’s when you talk about it. Tell whoever it is, that you’re not ready…and that maybe someday you will be, and they need to respect that. When you’re ready to do it, that’s when you talk about whether or not your a virgin…and make sure if your significant other isn’t, find out if they do have anything going on with them, if your not sure if they’re being honest with you, have them get a test. And if they are not willing to…I’d consider it over, because that’s serious and they need to be willing to do whatever they need to, to make sure they’re safe and you’re safe. However about this guy…talk to him, about everything that’s bugging you, why you’re upset, do it politely but to the point. Comminication is everything. Find out what’s going on, see if you two can fix it, and go from there, ya know? And if you can’t, you can always be friends.
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Well buddy.. its mind game… well all u have to do is .. just sit and think of ur priority???
a. u love him or not
b. what kinda realtionship u r looking for and from him
c.is it a long term or just that kinda stand in night
d. so u value ur virginity rt?
They say slow and steady win the race.
So be calm, think about it and if u feel this guy is for u and u r going to be his life partner wait till u guys get married. till then have a great time.. together u can do lot of things than sex rt?
best of luck
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i think your F’ing up your relationship….that hole "we dated for 2 months then i told him i want to be just friends but i told him hes a potential bf" thats called playing his feelings…RESPECT HIM!!!!! either be his friend and concentrate on being a great friend….or be his gf…and stay that way. His feelings arent a yo-yo you cant just bounce him around where ever you want. and ya cause you are so anti sex cause your a virgin, hes holding back doing anything that will make him horny and want to screw you….hes respecting you and being extra careful..whats so wrong with that? and lastly, him working and stuff…thats called having a life..and maybe hes at a poinit where hes so busy, he cant squeez you into his schdeule, sorry his life doesnt perfectly fit into your schdule? god your dumb and selfish. let him live his life….stop putting pressure on everything, stop over thinking everything….let stuff flow. your the type that gives girls a BAD rep
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The answer is simple…he’s with someone else…its obvious. He’s trying hard not to hurt your feelings by saying that he works alot and that he thinks of you often. The reality is that even if you did have sex with him…he would have still lost interest…..its him, not you. What you should do is move forward and look for a real boyfriend….he’s just not the guy for you…..RIght now, he’s probably not the guy for anyone.
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IT’S CLEAR…HE IS ONLY AFTER YOUR BODY!!! Suddenly he’s busy, pleazzzz!
good that he doesn’t press you but that doesn’t mean he should be rewarded with sex either. Dump him and preserve yourself for a more deserving man (after you both marry).
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